Is your picky toddler not eating? It happens to all of us at one time or another. Here’s why it might be happening…and what you can do to make it better (or at least how to know what’s normal so you can relax).
Picky Eating in Toddlers
You get everyone to the table and bring out the food. Your toddler won’t eat, throws a fit, or fusses. No matter how hard you try, this is often the reality of feeding toddlers. The good news is that a toddler not eating is actually quite normal.
The bad news? It’s a difficult thing to know exactly why your toddler isn’t eating—and what exactly you should do about it.
But there are simple steps you can take to improve the situation.
Toddler Not Eating? Here’s What to Do
Family meals are a chance to be together at the end of a long day, to enjoy food, and to create daily rituals and routines. But when a toddler won’t eat, whether at the family table or not, it can throw off even the best of intentions. And it can make meal time a huge source of stress.
The reasons a toddler won’t eat are unique to each kiddo and situation, so I’m going to try to be as comprehensive as possible here.
Daily Toddler Nutrition
For a quick reference, you can download my Printable Toddler Nutrition Guide so you can refer to it for reassurance and information. Use it as a guide, not a hard-and-fast rule, since kids aren’t robots and will not eat like a chart. I share this first because portion sizes may actually be a lot smaller than you realize and often we are simply overestimating the amount that our kids need.
(Aim to serve healthy fat with most meals or snacks since little kids need it for proper brain development.)
Why does my toddler refuse to eat?
It’s very possible your toddler’s not eating because he simply isn’t as hungry as he was when he was a baby. Toddlers grow less rapidly than babies and may be less hungry and need less food than you expect. If you give them a larger portion size than they need, they may eat some and leave the rest—and it may visually look like they haven’t eaten anything even though they did.
And toddlers don’t always have the words to be able to effectively communicate that they aren’t hungry, so they may just refuse to eat. This may look like playing with food, throwing food, or flat-out refusing to have anything to do with food.
A normal toddler meal may be two bites of a food. Or it may be a whole plate. A normal toddler may like something immensely one week and not at all the following week.
This is to be expected and is 100% normal.
Or, it’s entirely possible that once they have it in their head that they don’t want something, they won’t eat it. Sometimes not wanting dinner is about power. Toddlers are in the developmental stage where it’s normal for them to test boundaries. They are learning what they can and cannot do and the effects their actions have—both at the table and away from it.
Talk with the rest of your family about how to create some structure around meals—when they happen, where they happen, who sits where, if music is playing, if phones are put away—to help your child know what to expect. Toddlers thrive on routine and attention.
- Consider using only water between meals and snacks (to avoid filling bellies up with milk or juice if that’s a potential issue).
- Serve very small portions to start to avoid wasting food or overwhelming the kids with large portions. Think a single piece of broccoli, one chicken nugget, or one small scoop of yogurt to start.
- Create some mealtime structure so there are set expectations at the table. This could be as simple as always sitting down at the dining table or the kitchen counter.
- Let it be ok if a child isn’t as hungry as you expect them to be. (The Division of Responsibility can be helpful here.)
How do I get my picky toddler to eat?
There are a few ways to rethink this issue. First, if you are in the habit of short-order-cooking the foods you know your toddler will eat, you may want to consider stopping. Explain to your kids that we’re having such-and-such tonight but that you will make their requested favorite food soon. Then follow through so they know they can trust you!
Then, make sure there are 1-2 foods on the table that the child usually likes, even if it’s something simple like fruit or cheese. Surround them with the food you want them to eat and let them decide what and how much of it to eat.
Using this Division of Responsibility in Feeding approach to meals can be a total GAME CHANGER, as it clearly delineates what the parent and child are each responsible for at the table, lessening pressure on everyone. It also gives the child a chance to stay in touch with their own hunger cues without prodding, pushing, or cajoling—which has the added benefit of helping to make mealtimes more enjoyable for you, too.
We want our kids to know their own hunger and fullness cues so they know how much to feed themselves as they grow into adolescents and adults when we aren’t around. And those cues can be hard to tap into if they are constantly overridden by external cues (like if we push them to eat a certain amount), however well-intentioned.
You can also try to involve them in doing something to help get ready for the meal to distract them from their concern about what’s for dinner. Try letting them help to set the table, help with simple meal prep (like washing veggies), or wash their hands. Hand washing is an excellent toddler-diversion tactic when they get upset about something.
If you are okay with cooking separate meals for your kids because it works better for you right now to know they will eat the food you make, then by all means, do that.
But if you’re wanting your child to eat family meals and eventually eat more of the same foods as the rest of the family, then try the tips I just shared above.
Remember: Even if you follow all feeding advice “perfectly”, your child may still eat differently than you expect. That is normal.
It is incredibly difficult to accurately estimate someone else’s hunger. I am a big proponent of moving from the goal of “getting the kids to eat” towards “how can I make mealtimes happier for all of us?”.
TIP: Almost every toddler is “picky” in one way or another at some point. Toddlers are quirky, it’s part of the fun! (And the challenge, of course.)
Why did my toddler stop eating?
If your child is playing with their food rather than eating it at the start of the meal, chances are they aren’t hungry enough to eat. Take a break and try again in 30 minutes if possible—or for the next snack or mealtime.
If your child just doesn’t seem hungry for any food or much food, consider how long it’s been since their last meal or snack, how much milk (or juice) they’re drinking throughout the day, how much they ate at their last meal or snack, and whether they are teething or tired or otherwise off.
It’s very possible a toddler won’t eat simply because they aren’t as hungry as you expect them to be.
Or they may be hungrier earlier in the day and taper off with their intake as the day goes on.
If your toddler won’t eat foods he once liked, try serving them in new ways—such as cutting carrots into sticks rather than rounds before cooking them, but also remind yourself that it’s normal for toddlers to go through phases of loving and not loving foods. They may be obsessed with blueberries one week and not want them again for two months.
It’s possible they simply need a break from having certain foods as frequently. That is OK. (And very relatable!)
- Serve very small portions to start to keep your own expectations of how much they should be eating in check. Then, allow seconds (or thirds) according to the kiddo’s hunger.
- Space out meals to 2-3 hours apart to allow time for hunger to build. And remember that their hunger may change during different phases of growth.
- Remember that there are simply times when kids aren’t hungry or aren’t as hungry as we expect. That is not a sign of pickiness, just their way of telling us that they aren’t hungry at that moment.
What if a toddler won’t eat anything but snacks?
Often, if a toddler knows there is a snack ahead that includes traditional “snacky” foods, they won’t eat the meal you are serving. It can help to serve “regular” food at snack time, instead of relying on crackers and fruit snacks, and serve classic “snack” foods with meals. This can even out the appeal of all food intake opportunities.
In other words, think of snacks as mini meals and serve all types of foods at each eating opportunity.
Kids often relax when they have access to their favorite foods, so there’s nothing wrong with serving Goldfish crackers along with strawberries and a hard-cooked egg. Or a chocolate chip snack bar with a banana and carrot sticks. It’s all good!
When it comes to feeding, the best thing you can do is to give your child lots of low-pressure opportunities to see (and maybe) eat a range of foods—while still offering foods your kids you know your kids usually eat. It’s all about balance…for everyone involved.
It still counts as an exposure even if a child doesn’t eat a food. They can touch it, see it, learn what it’s called, and add to their food literacy—which can be helpful over time as they grow.
- Buy more of the foods you want your kids to eat, but still include foods they love so they avoid feeling restricted.
- Serve small mini meals at snack time instead of traditional “snack” foods and incorporate more traditional “snacks” into meals—like crackers alongside soup, for example.
- Think of all eating opportunities as “mini meals” and serve all foods at all times to lessen the appeal of “snack” a little.
- Stick with a routine for meals and snacks by having them at set times (roughly) and avoiding all day grazing.
Is it normal for my toddler to refuse to eat?
There will be times when your toddler simply doesn’t like a meal you make. And whether it’s the texture, flavor, appearance, or the way the wind is blowing, we may never know, but it will happen. Or, a toddler won’t eat at times because they are either not that hungry or they know you will get them something they prefer if they refuse.
A child will usually choose a more familiar, fun, and safe food when given the chance. But if you pair safe foods with other ones, they can gently expand their accepted food range. Or, at the very least, have those exposures to other foods (even if they don’t eat them yet).
My method is to make family dinner, including 1-2 foods per meal that the kids usually like even if those foods are a simple side of fruit and milk. Then, if they don’t want to eat, I can trust that they aren’t hungry.
This is a very reliable method if you do it regularly. I do realize this is hard when it’s 6 p.m. and your little one hasn’t eaten a thing for dinner. If that happens and they legitimately seem hungry after dinner, wait at least 30 minutes (so they don’t feel rewarded for refusing dinner) and offer a super boring bedtime snack like a banana. If they are hungry enough for boring food, you know they are hungry!
If your toddler seems to legitimately dislike a meal, you can institute a “backup meal” to give them the chance to satisfy hunger. Choose something plain that they would likely never choose to eat by themselves and offer that and that alone so you don’t have to negotiate in the moment. (To me, this is something that should be used very rarely since it can create more work, especially if you have multiple children.)
Good backup meal options in our house are plain yogurt with granola, plain toast with nut butter, a scrambled egg, or a bowl of cereal. We keep the options plain.
- Avoid getting up during a meal to get different food at your toddler’s request. Instead, aim to include 1-2 foods they usually like in any meal to ensure they always have something to eat.
- Ask the kids (who can communicate verbally) to choose between options for dinner, such as choosing which vegetable or side dish to have from two options you have on hand. Kids like to be involved in making decisions!
- Serve a boring bedtime snack if they didn’t eat dinner and seem hungry before bedtime.
- Have one boring “backup” meal option for those rare nights when they legitimately don’t like the dinner on offer—something they probably wouldn’t ask for but are happy enough to eat if hungry.
My toddler won’t eat because he’s sick. Should I worry?
When toddlers are sick, normal eating very often goes out the window. With any illness, appetites can decrease. The general rule that our pediatrician always shares is that as long as they are drinking and going to the bathroom normally, then you shouldn’t need to worry too much.
Keep portion sizes small, keep the actual foods simple, don’t push food too hard, and trust that their little bodies are doing what they need to feel better. You can get back to normal eating when they are feeling better, and you can always check in with your doctor.
Be patient since lower appetites can linger longer than you might expect, even once a child starts to feel better. And of course, check with your doctor if they aren’t drinking, there’s another red flag, or you just need reassurance from a medical professional.
Also, toddler teething can cause reductions in hunger. Try not to expect that your toddler will eat normally when they are cutting teeth (especially not with molars!) and instead offer them plenty of liquids, chilled foods, and things that don’t require too much chewing—smoothies, yogurt, pasta, popsicles—to help avoid irritating their already sore gums.
My toddler won’t eat anything but milk. Help!
If you have a toddler who’s not eating but drinks lots of milk, it’s possible that milk is filling their bellies and reducing hunger for other food. (The same can be said for any other food that they are insisting is the only food they want.)
The AAP recommends toddlers have 2-3 serving of dairy a day, which includes milk and other dairy foods like cheese and yogurt. A serving of milk for a toddler is ½ cup. Try serving a smaller portion of milk just at meals and offering water in between. (You may need to do this gradually, especially since milk is often a comfort food.)
Keep portion size in mind, especially if your toddler won’t eat anything but milk, since cups and bottles can be quite large. This 4-ounce sippy cup is a nice size to use at meals since it ensures that a toddler won’t fill up on milk and will be more likely to have room in their bellies for some food. A very small juice glass works, too.
You may need to taper down the volume in bottles if that’s how they’re consuming their milk.
- Serve milk at meals and offer water in between.
- Serve milk in a small cup (or a smaller cup than you have been using) to help avoid serving too much at once.
- Start to decrease the volume of milk in bottles and work on moving milk to meals, rather than as separate feeding around 18 months.
- Remember that milk is often comforting for kids, so you may need to take a gradual approach with this.
How can I increase my toddler’s appetite?
Why do you want to increase your toddler’s appetite? Are you worried she isn’t eating enough of the “right” foods? That she is “too small”? Is she low on the growth curve? A good question to ask is whether her growth is consistent with her own history, not as compared to other kids her age.
Every toddler grows at their own unique speed, and it’s possible she is exactly the size she needs to be—and is eating a perfect amount for herself in her current phase.
If your toddler truly doesn’t seem to be eating enough (remember, they may eat only ¼ as much as an adult…you may need to adjust your expectations!) and there is a medical concern—such as if they have fallen off of their growth curve or are losing weight—you can try serving smaller snacks and meals more often, adding lots of healthy fats to their food, and getting them involved in the kitchen.
Here are some foods that may help a toddler gain weight.
Sometimes just being around food in a situation without pressure can encourage a kid to explore and enjoy more at the table, too.
Be sure to check with your pediatrician to make sure you’re on the same page about a plan if there’s a weight-loss issue.
Why won’t my 1-year-old eat?
Toddlers aren’t growing as rapidly as babies, so while your child may have eaten a lot as an older baby, he might not be as hungry now. This is very, very common in 1-year-olds.
One-year-olds are also BUSY. They have a lot going on in their little worlds and many constantly want to be moving.
Avoiding distractions at the table can help a toddler focus on their food, and keeping a consistent mealtime routine—when meals happen, where they happen, and what’s generally expected during a meal–can go a long way toward happier mealtimes for everyone.
One-year-olds are also just discovering that their actions have consequences, so they may not eat (or they may throw food or do all sorts of other behaviors) simply because they’ve realized that they can. Keep your reactions during meals as low key and consistent as possible so they don’t try to get you to react. (I fully understand that this is really hard.)
- Limit distractions at the table, and sit and engage with your child during mealtimes as is possible.
- Keep your reactions to undesired behavior neutral, consistent, and swift. (If they throw food, end the meal or at least take a break. If they spit out their milk, remove their access to milk. Etc.)
- Give them time to work up an appetite between meals—and avoid letting them graze all day (or at least acknowledge they are getting their calories throughout the day that way).
- Remember it’s NORMAL for a 1-year-old to be less hungry than they were as a baby. They may eat less than they used to, and we might need to adjust our expectations. This often shows up around 14-17 months; it is not “pickiness”, it’s a normal decrease in hunger.
Why won’t my 2-year-old eat?
Outside of illness or teething, a 2-year-old won’t eat for similar power dynamics as above, but they also may be much more sensitive to new foods due to a normal phase called neophobia. This fear of new foods, which usually spikes between 2 and 6 (though it can start at 1 year old), can cause them to refuse foods they once loved and foods you think they will love.
It can also cause them to refuse to want to eat foods mixed together or foods with certain textures.
Try to remember that this is a normal phase of development that will, in all likelihood, eventually pass. Researchers have found you may need to offer a food 8-15 times before a child may willingly try it. In other words, keep on offering the foods you want them to eat regularly in small portions and without pressure, and eat those foods in front of your child.
Because even if they don’t want it today, one day they just might surprise you some day in the future.
(Two of my kids literally refused beans for two years at our weekly taco night. Then one day, they each decided to try them. It took forever, but it wasn’t really a big deal—since they had other foods on the table during those meals they could eat—and they got to that food in their own time.)
For a 2- and 3-year-old, serving meals family style can also help to diffuse power struggles at the table. Simply put the components of the meal in bowls on the table and encourage and help your toddler decide what they’d like to eat. Don’t force bites of everything, unless your child responds positively to that approach, but give them space to choose what looks appealing.
This small amount of ownership over what goes onto their plate can be extremely helpful for strong-willed toddlers. A lot of times, all they really want is to feel like they have some control over their lives.
- Ask your child “how can I make this yummier?” to see if they can help you figure out how to make their food more appealing.
- Serve meals family style to diffuse power struggles and let them choose which foods to put on their plates.
- In each meal, include 1-2 safe foods they usually like to ensure they always have something to eat if they are hungry.
- Trust their appetites, which may be different than you expect and may vary a lot from day to day.
Why won’t my 3-year-old eat?
A 3-year-old may not eat for reasons similar to a 2-year-old, but they may also have more words to express themselves—so they may be more dramatic in their response. They may not be as hungry as you expect, their appetite may be unpredictable, or they may be worn out by the time dinner rolls around. (That last one is fairly common!)
Three-year-olds also know how hard they need to push to get what they want. Toddlers at this age benefit from set expectations at mealtimes and routine. Which is to say, if you start getting up to get them foods other than the ones you’ve made for dinner, they will continue to demand that you do that.
There’s no rule that says that a toddler needs to eat every single thing you serve for dinner. If they eat some of it, there’s decently good behavior, and minimal crying, that can be defined as a happy meal. Keep the bar low, my friends, and you might find that things are better than you realize!
- Serve meals family style and let them choose what to eat from the foods you put out.
- Let them choose what to have for dinner from two predetermined options so they feel like they have more power.
- Serve very small portions to start to avoid overwhelming them.
- Include 1-2 safe foods they usually like in each meal to function as safety nets in case they don’t like the main dish.
My toddler won’t eat breakfast. Why?
You may simply have a child who isn’t super hungry first thing in the morning. Try to give them a little time to wake up before sitting down for breakfast and/or serve a smaller portion for breakfast and increase the amount of the morning snack.
If your toddler drinks milk or breastfeeds in the morning, it’s possible they have a full little belly that doesn’t have room for food. Keep that in mind if your toddler won’t eat breakfast and adjust expectations accordingly—and perhaps also serve smaller amounts of food.
My toddler is constipated—is that why she won’t eat?
It’s certainly possible! If a little one (or anyone, really) feels uncomfortable in their belly, the idea of putting food into it may not be appealing. In addition to fiber, having enough water is key to alleviating toddler constipation, so offer lots of water to drink throughout the day, along with hydrating produce like melon, cucumbers, berries, and zucchini.
You can also try to include healthy fats (avocado, coconut oil) in their diet, or try a Constipation Smoothie, as they, too, can help food more easily move through the digestive system. And remember: Each kiddo has their own “regular,” so it’s possible that your toddler needs to go once every two or three days…or three times a day.
If your toddler has been holding it all day at school, he may not want to eat dinner because he’s uncomfortable. Try to give him a chance to use the potty, with as much time as is needed to relax, before dinner.
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Why does my toddler always want a bedtime snack?
If your toddler has some time between dinner and bedtime, she very well might be hungry before bed. You could either push dinner back a bit or institute a regular bedtime snack. This is a tactic I read about in this book and it makes sense.
If there is always an easy bedtime snack, you won’t have to renegotiate it every night. And you also won’t have to worry about sending your child to bed hungry if you are prone to that particular worry.
I’d just caution against making the snack something they LOVE because kids may recognize that they can simply skip dinner and have the snack they love instead. If a child regularly asks for a snack right after dinner, it may be a habit (or a bedtime delay tactic!), not true hunger. Try “you can be hungry for breakfast” or “if you’re really hungry, you can have a banana.” Both of those phrases can work wonders to suss out true hunger.
- Find super simple healthy bedtime snacks in this comprehensive post.
How do I know if my toddler’s eating problems are serious?
Here’s some great advice from Katja and Jenny, the authors of Extreme Picky Eating:
“Ask yourself: What is your underlying fear? The point is to figure out what you are worried about, and then find out if you need to worry (or not) from a book, a doctor, or dietitian. If you don’t need to worry, you can direct your energies to more productive things like supporting your child’s eating. If a problem is discovered, like an oral-motor delay, then you can get that addressed. Studies suggest that between one- and two-thirds of all young children will be described as ‘picky’ in early childhood.”
If there is a growth delay, severe reactions to different or specific textures, regular gagging, difficulty eating or digesting, oral-motor delays, muscular disorders, or any other issues that make eating difficult, reach out to your pediatrician and/or a feeding therapist. They will be best suited to help you work through the issues.
Bottom line: When a toddler won’t eat, it is not a judgement on our cooking skills or our parenting skills. A lot of it has to do with the developmental stage they are in—of learning and exploring boundaries—and simply seeing how much power they have. Hang in there!
Did I miss anything? Comment if you have a question!
This post is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Please consult with a pediatrician or a feeding therapist as needed.
This post was first published April 2018.
This is a great blog, thank you! Do you think a toddlers refusal or lack of interest in eating could be tied to separation anxiety?
It totally could!
My 17 mo. old just started daycare last week. We are on day 5, and she refuses to eat there, including familiar foods like cereal and fruit. For the most part, they serve her their meals, but even when we’ve sent substitutes due to allergies, she won’t eat those things either. She even refused goldfish at 3pm yesterday after not eating all day! I understand it’s a big transition, since she has been home for the first 17 months of her life, but I did not expect her to go on a hunger strike. Any advice?
Hi- I think that if she’s drinking and otherwise seems okay (other than normal clinginess that I would assume may also be happening around the edges of this transition) I would try to give it a few more days to resolve itself. And continue offering easy to eat snacks after she gets home. Usually this sorts itself out in 2 weeks or so in my personal experience and from hearing from other parents. You can also talk to the teachers to see if there’s anything they might suggest doing specifically at mealtime—helping to make sure the food is easy to eat for example. Teachers are usually clued into that and are trying to do their best so I really hope she starts to feel more comfortable soon. Hang in there to all of you!
My son 28 months old
He is a picky eater he touches everything and make sure it is crispy he doesn’t like any thing soft
He used eat rice with lentils ( our staple food ) but then he got sick for couple of days and his appetite became very low and it’s been a month now I have tried everything to get him back to normal routine but nothing seems working
He just eat plan bread no fruits veggies or protein
Have you talked to your pediatrician or asked for a referral to a feeding therapist? That would be an option if he’s really down to just eating plain bread.
My 2 year old will not eat solids or any food. He used to like blended fruits cereal and yoghurt for bread but he stopped taking any of that. He does eat any whole fruits or vegetables. I’ve tried apples, carrots, strawberries, kiwi and more but he plays with them instead of eat. He also doesn’t eat any snake like muffins or cookies. He pushes them away. I’m so frustrated because I’m a full time mom. He stays at home with my mother. How do I get him to snack, fruits and eat solids.
Hi- Given his age and what you’re describing, I would ask your pediatrician for a referral to a feeding therapist if that’s possible. I hope that helps.
My daughter is 2 and 8 months, she drinks milk in the morning, lunch, and bedtime, she is a very picky eater and only eats yogurt/ cheese stick for breakfast and rice, fries, chicken nuggets for lunch most of the time she takes 1 or 2 bites and asks for milk soon after. I tried taking the milk away but she still wont eat . were should i start to fix this?
Thank you so much !!
Hi- You could try moving the milk to be with meals to start, then gradually reduce the amount down to 4 ounces. Over time that would maintain her comfort food (milk) but reduce the chances that she’s filling up on it or using it in place of her meals. It can sometimes be a process to help kids out of that habit, but I went through it with my middle kiddo and it both took a while, she didn’t eat a ton of food (especially at dinner) for her 2 year old year, but soon after that she both stopped loving milk so much and started eating more. Some of what you’re mentioning could be happening even if she wasn’t drinking milk because of her age, but I hope adjusting when and how much milk is served helps a little. Feel free to email me if not and I can recommend some additional resources.
My Daughter is 3 Years old. Not eating at all for more than a year, vomiting always while eating, and keeping in the mouth for a long time. tried appetite syrup also. for
P.s: stool is hard always and little portions.
If she’s vomiting while she eats, I would consult your pediatrician and find a feeding therapist to work with if possible as that is a severe reaction. I hope things improve.
My son is 20 months and a very picky eater. He literally only ever wants fruit. He will eat other food groups but it’s typically only 5-6 different foods. I’m at my wits end. He won’t even attempt to pick up a food if it’s not one of those foods he likes. I always put a safe food (which is a fruit because that’s all he wants) but if everything else on the plate is not what he knows he will only eat the safe food. He’s gone many meals skipped. Days where he only eats some fruit all day long. I’ve tried what feels like everything and I get nothing! I try to stay calm but it’s going on for weeks and weeks and I lost all patience. I fear he’s losing weight. But still has tons of energy. Any advice??
Hi- With this information, I would recommend that you look into a feeding therapist who can offer individualized suggestions. If you’d like suggestions for people who do virtual work, Thrive by Spectrum pediatrics is a great option. Hang in there!
My 19 months old has always been a picky eater. He never liked water. And now since past 3 days, he has stopped eating altogether. He just says “done” after seeing food. We tried giving his fav food ( chocolate cake) but he rejected it! He just throws around the food and kills his meal time and says “done”. He doesn’t want to drink any liquid except breast milk. We haves tried different cups, bottles, sippy cups, straws but he just doesn’t want to drink anything( not even juice/ milk shakes/ smoothies/ water)!
He is still active, happy and playing all the time. Rest of his schedule and activities are normal.
What do I do?
If he’s not eating, but is drinking breastmilk, that’s at least something. I would check in with your pediatrician though since that is out of his normal and they can tell you the signs to keep an eye out for if they’d want to see him. (Maybe he’s teething?)
My 19 month old Little Girl has not been eating right for the past 6-8 months, every single time something needs to go anywhere near her mouth it becomes a battle… 🙁
She used to eat quite nicely before, having fruit and veg, I was cooking nice little meals for her, it all stopped for no known to me reason around the summer…she has not eaten fruit or veg since (even the slightest chunk gets rejected), won’t eat cheese, any puree, soup, pasta, rice, cous cous, pies, etc. Bread only gets eaten completely dry – cannot put the tiniest bit of butter or jam/chocolate on it 😐 often she refuses yoghurt, which she loved…She used to eat porridge quite nicely for breakfast, now doesn’t – will eat cereal with milk tho, so I suppose I should be ‘happy’ with that… Lunch is another battle – he only thing she will eat without too much of a fuss is ‘dry, boring, brown oven stuff’, i.e. chicken nuggets, fish fingers, veggie sausages…no veg or potato (even in the form of a chip) will pass…
I don’t tend to give her biscuits/snacks in between, so that she is actually hungry for the more important meals, that doesn’t work.
We do sit to eat together, I show her I eat what I give her and try to incorporate other foods that she is refusing to eat on her plate, just so she sees they exist, but nope, no luck…
I am literally at the end of my sanity here, as this cannot be ‘normal’ to be happening every single day for the last 6/8 months…..
Hi- It sounds like you might benefit from more individualized help given how long it’s been going on and your stress level (based on what I can tell:). If you’re open to that, I recommend Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics or Sunnyside Up Nutritionists. You could also look into the book Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating by Katja Rowell. I hope that helps a little!
My 18 month old won’t eat any of the foods I give her unless it’s string cheese, or chips and all she ever wants to drink is juice, she won’t even try to drink milk or water…I don’t even know what to do any more do I just give in and give her juice? I don’t want her to go without liquids
Generally speaking, in this situation I would ask what you do when she doesn’t eat what you offer her and what her expectations are of mealtime. If she knows she can hold out for the food she wants, she’ll go with that. I recommend using the Division of Responsibility with consistency and including 1-2 foods in each meal/snack that the kids usually like and not getting up to get other food. This can take a few days to become normal, but it can help. With the liquid, maybe try watering down the juice some to start? I know this is hard!
Hi, I have a 18 month old, she loved puree’s since around 5/6 months old right up until around 9/10 months. Then she has never ever liked the lumpy food, with solids such as breakfast toast, porridge, she will have one bite and that’s it. We offer snacks such as fruit etc throughout the day but she doesn’t eat. All she wants is milk.
Hi- Generally speaking, it’s possible that she is full from her milk and that decreasing the amount she has over the course of the day could help her to be hungrier for solids. Some kids don’t connect the dots between solids being able to fill their hunger until they are drinking less milk so that could be the main or part of the issue here. I would continue trying to offer a range of textures though to continue to give her time to learn them and reach out to a responsive feeding therapist if you feel that the texture issues are more of the issue than the milk consumption.
My kid is 2.5 years girl .. she was 24 lbs her ribs stick out .. it’s disgusting she refuses to eat … truthfully I given up .. it’s exhausting if she doesn’t eat whatever .. they will eat one day right???
If she’s really not eating, I would recommend being in touch with your pediatrician as you may need to work with a feeding therapist. I hope that helps!
My 3 year old will be 4 in June. He has a very limited amount of foods that he will eat. Peanut butter, strawberries, banana, green beans, French toast, carrots, cereal, snack bars and sometimes eggs. I am concerned that he isn’t getting what he needs nutritionally but my pediatrician is insisting that he’ll eat something new when he is ready. He has gotten taller, but hasn’t necessarily gained weight in the last 6 months. When should I be concerned ?
Hi- Typically if a child eats less than about 20 different foods over the course of a month (two different kinds of snack bars would be considered two different foods, for example) you may need individualized help from a responsive feeding therapist. If preparing meals and snacks fill you with dread or worry, I would also consider that a time to consider individualized help. Kids don’t always grow linearly, so I would trust your pediatrician’s assessment on growth. I recommend the book How to Help Kids With Extreme Picky Eating, and also the teams at Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics and the Sunnyside Up Nutritionists. Feel free to email me if you want to chat more!
My son used to be a great eater until about 18 months. Since then he has been extremely picky. He doesn’t eat foods that he used to (which I know you mentioned is normal in your article). Ultimately, I’m not too concerned about my son’s health since he will eat at least 1 or 2 foods from each food group. However, he almost always refuses to eat dinner. Again, I know he’s probably not hungry at the time; but what is concerning (or more frustrating) is that he wakes up at 5AM, and I think it’s because he doesn’t eat dinner. I always offer 1 safe food (if not more). He probably eats dinner once a week, and he’ll only fill up on the safe food. If we were to offer chicken nuggets or pizza, he would gobble it up every time. I’m wanting to just give in and give him nuggets and pizza every night so that he’ll sleep later in the morning (which I know I shouldn’t do). Any advice? We’ve been offering the same foods since he was 18 months (he is now 27 months), so well past the 15 times that is suggested to offer it before they actually try it. And when I say the same foods, I mean a wide variety of foods, but many times (e.g., we offer him chicken 2-3 times a week for dinner, fish another night or two, ground beef another night, etc.). We never pressure him to eat anything. I’m getting to the point though that I want to. Any advice would be appreciated!
It is very common for this to happen around the age you mention. Perhaps offer a very boring bedtime snack to help? (I cannot guarantee that will help with the sleeping—you may also want to look at how long he’s napping which could impact how much nighttime sleep he needs.) My approach to bedtime snacks can be seen here: https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/bedtime-snacks/
3 year old refuses to eat anything other than chips and chicken nuggets for dinner. I make a different dinner every night and never give in to his demands, if he doesn’t eat his dinner he doesn’t get an alternative. It is slowly getting worse, to the point that he ate 1 dinner last week. I serve him things that I know he has eatten before but his not even eating them. I include him is the prep, we reward him for trying new foods and nothing is working. Someone please help us!!
If you haven’t worked with a feeding therapist before, you might want to get some individualized help if it’s getting to the point that he’s really not eating. I can send you some options if you’d like. I know this is hard and I also know that sometimes you really need someone to work with your unique situation.
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My son is 16 months and I am sill breastfeeding him. My husband thinks I should stop because he still wants it at night and he thinks thats why he doesn’t eat well. Breakfast he never really eats much more than 1-2 bites unless we have pancakes. Should I stop breastfeeding? I know he loves it and I love the bonding but I know food is more important for them…
Hi- I can’t tell you what to do but I will say that clearly breastfeeding is important to you and you don’t have to stop if you or he isn’t ready. Yes, it is true that some kids who nurse overnight at this age will be less hungry for food simply because they’re getting nutrition from the breastmilk. If you want to nudge his intake towards more solids, you could consider night weaning or working towards dropping the first morning feed so he has time to be hungry for breakfast. It can be gentle and responsive to him and a process. I hope that helps. I can direct you to some resources about night weaning if you’d like—let me know here or amy @ yummytoddlerfood . com
Can you please share those options?
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