If you’re gearing up to host family or friends over the holidays, doing so with kids in the house can be daunting. We have 8 simple tips for keeping your sanity during holiday hosting—no matter what else may happen in the house!
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We’re inching closer to Christmas and New Years, which means that it’s likely that you’ll either be having friends or family over or you’ll be spending time in someone else’s house. Handling the dynamics of holiday parties and events with little kids underfoot is complicated—so many opinions! so many feelings!—that it can make the actual work that goes into hosting a holiday feel even more intense.
In this episode of the podcast, we talked through our own approaches to staying sane during this time of the year—both from the standpoint of Virginia hosting a large blended family and Amy hosting a smaller group while very pregnant! We hope that some of our tips help you to handle your holiday parties and dinners without quite so much agita.
As we all know, this time of year can be loaded since the kids are likely to be more wound up and under slept, plus there are heightened emotions to make the best of every moment. And also dietary restrictions when feeding a crowd and the sheer reality of close quarters with many people and many thoughts on parenting that can prove to be a challenge for even the most zen mama.
Some of these tips may apply more to those of you who will have house guests (or who will be house guests), so take what you can use according to your own situation. They should, hopefully, help you make the best of what can be a tricky situation!
Holiday Hosting Tip #1: Manage Expectations
This can apply on so many levels, but here are some tips to keep in mind on the expectations front:
- The food doesn’t need to be perfect to be good and enjoyable.
- The kids don’t have to be angels to be loved and enjoyed.
- You don’t have to turn your house into a hotel to make guests comfortable.
Remember to focus on taking time out of your normal schedule and the being together part whenever you feel stressed by the details.
Holiday Hosting Tip #2: Don’t Reinvent the Wheel
If you’ve made a holiday dinner that everyone loves, feel free to make it again! They likely haven’t had it in a year and everyone loves having something special to look forward to. (Thanksgiving is a classic example of this!)
Holiday Hosting Tip #3: Outsource As You Can
We like this idea both in terms of buying prepared food—like I don’t have a pizzelle iron, but they sell them at Whole Foods, so look, problem solved!—and letting other people take ownership of their special dishes. They’re most likely wanting to make their special recipes anyway, so this is not a time to insist on doing it all yourself.
Holiday Hosting Tip #4: Recruit Helpers
Put someone on recycling duty. Have someone else handle keeping the kids occupied right before meals to keep them out of the kitchen. Have a favorite uncle take the kids outside or to the playground. It’s okay to ask for help.
Holiday Hosting Tip #5: Delegate Clean Up
If you’re in charge of the meal, you 100% should not be in charge of the clean up! Get yourself a glass of wine or tea, sit on the couch, and let someone else do the dishes. (And empty the trash and run the dishwasher.)
Holiday Hosting Tip #6: Embrace Imperfection
Whenever little kids are in the picture, it’s nearly impossible to have everything go “right”. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that this is okay!
Holiday Hosting Tip #7: Let the Kids be Kids
Kids will likely be out of control at some point during holiday get togethers simply because it’s exciting. There are lots of people, gifts, and special foods—of course they’ll be a little wound up. Remember that this is fun for them in a different way and that they are likely doing their best with the flood of emotions they are feeling. And if they seem to get overwhelmed or start acting out? Take them to a quiet place to snuggle, read a book, or take a walk outside. We’re not all great in crowds!
Holiday Hosting Tip #8: Try the Phrase “Follow My Lead”
If anyone comments, pressures, or tries to dictate what your kids eat and it rubs you the wrong, way, Katja Rowell, MD recommends using the phrase “Follow My Lead”. This is something you can talk about ahead of time if you expect this, or use it in the moment. Here’s an example:
Aunt Lucy: “Harper, eat your green beans and then you can have some cookies.”
You: “Actually, we let her eat her dessert with her dinner. Can you follow my lead on this please?”
Aunt Lucy: “Micheal, you need to sit with us at the table until everyone is done.”
You: “Actually, it looks like he’s done eating and it will probably be more enjoyable for all of us if he goes into the other room to play. Please follow my lead on this.”
It’s a relatively unobtrusive way to take back control over the conversation and to avoid confusing the kids with different rules when you’re at home and at someone else’s house.
Plus: Links from the Episode
Here are the:
Kind Protein Bars that I recommended to Virginia as a solid morning snack option.
Slow Cooker Whole Chicken that I mentioned from The Kitchn that’s crazy easy and delicious.
TELL US WHAT YOU THINK!
We’d love to hear your thoughts on this podcast episode, so please comment below or reach out to us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Whether you have feedback on meal planning or have a general feeding kids question for us, we’d love to hear from you!